As a busy mom of 4 who looks like she has her act together. I assure you, I don’t. I do try my hardest however to create and stick to rhythms that help everyone in my family with decision making. Because let’s face it, as a mom I’m making thousands of decisions a day many of which are demands from my tiny humans.
Mom, can I have a snack?
Mom, where’s my toothbrush?
Mom, can I go outside to play?
Mom, can you turn on Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles?
Mom, Mom, Mom….. MOM!!!!!
Everyone of their questions makes me have to STOP and think about what time they last ate or if I fed them at all that day, and how much TV they’ve already watched that day or if it’s warm enough to play outside without a coat.
While I can’t take away all your decisions, there is a better way that will help you simplify…
Rhythms are the things we do habitually. We as humans, are creatures of habit so stop fighting that and embrace it by creating new routines, habits, rituals, rhythms or whatever YOU want to call it that help your days run more smoothly. It takes the guess work out of what we need or want to do each day. Rhythms are the key to kicking motherhood survival mode and not ending each day crying in the bathroom or hating your spouse. (It happens to the best of us, you’re not crazy – you’re normal sister.)
Here is an example of my families morning rhythms we’ve implemented that help put life a little more on automate:
I wake up early (5:30) to knockout some quality “me-time” before the craziness of the day begins or the kids are up.
I chug 12 oz water and do a 3o minute workout in my basement while listening to an audio book or podcast.
I then plan, prioritize and schedule my day followed by meditation or quiet time and coffee.
The big kids wake up at 7am to their alarm clock (if they aren’t up already) and start their morning routine of 1o minutes relax/wake up time.
While I get ready for day (quick shower, get dressed, make my bed) the kids have breakfast (the two big kids usually make their own breakfast or we do it together quick).
The kids then get dressed, brush teeth and wash face while I’m starting a load of laundry (family of 6 problems) from the dirty laundry baskets the kids empty in the laundry room every morning.
I send the first kid off to school at 7:30am.
I then make my breakfast, give the floors a quick sweep and wipe the counters down while the other kids that are still home help load or unload dishwasher or pick up toys left out from the night before.
The next kid goes out the door to school at 830am.
What I love about this morning rhythm is it puts what has to get done on autopilot for me and my kids. We even keep a chart in the boys rooms so they know what is expected of them each morning, they stay on task and they don’t ask me a hundred questions or whine about it (most of the time).
And, by doing little things like sweeping the floors, starting the laundry and wiping the counters regularly, I am able to feel like I’m on top of things and I don’t end up having a breakdown later on in the day when the kitchen is a freaking disaster.
My morning routine of a workout and me-time helps me to stay healthy and feel good physically and mentally which are all a top priority in my mission to stay sane and be a better wife and mom.
Another example of a rhythm we do is snack time for my kids. To keep them from going into the fridge and cupboards as they please or asking me relentlessly, they know that they may have a snack that they help themselves to at a set time each day. This helps alleviate me blowing up at something silly like a snack because they asked 100 times. By taking a lot of the “Mom, can I’s” (like snack time) out my day, I solve a lot of problems and it save me a lot of agitation.
So….think about the daily frustrations you have…. now plan out a daily rhythm that will help your day run more smoothly once you get it on automate. I promise you, it will lead to a better life and so much more.